Relationship: Secrets of the “I miss you” text

The moment you knew that one person, was your person. The person you lose yourself in. They are yours and you are theirs. They flood all of your senses with a simple word. It’s absolute bliss. You’re obsessed with reading, listening, laughing, and touching them. They are everything and you can’t see past anything else. Your world is theirs and they own each and every part you. They left you senseless and overjoyed.

Then one day, all of a sudden they were gone. What once was a day dream of incredible and unfathomable bliss is now a distant memory. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months and months into years. You forget the subtleties of their face, you forget the quirky laugh, you forget the details of why you broke up in the first place. They no longer matter.

Then one day you look down at your phone and see “I miss you”. You sit there surprised and maybe at a loss for words to explain this new notification out of nowhere. How do you respond? Do you even answer? Why is this person who you’ve forgotten reaching out?

The answer is quite simple really. Don’t think about it at all. Remember who this person is. The same person who may have broken your heart, said hurtful words, caused this day dream to end abruptly leaving you to pick up the pieces. Out of curiosity, you may want to respond. Just to find out what they want or why they are reaching out.

This seemingly innocent text isn’t as innocent as it may seem. It’s essentially a form of control. Emotional manipulation. Whether from a man or woman, they want you to forget what’s happened and entertain them for a time. It’s meant to trigger you into to feeling loved, wanted, cared for. A simple way of showing extended affection without actually caring at all.

You were with this person at one time, but did they actually care? If they did, would it have ended? Would it have left you in heartbreak? If you answer and they fail you again, won’t you be just as hurt or even more?

There’s nothing romantic or beautiful about being played. There’s nothing special about someone leaving you at your lowest point and then coming back to play with you. There’s no way to romanticize someone coming back after they’ve fucked someone else. Think about it… they are bored. You’ve moved on, you’re happy and free. Boredom isn’t sexy… stop and think about it….

Don’t answer… “I miss you” texts. Burn the memory. They forfeit the rights to your heart, your body and your bed.

While you sit there in awe of this unforeseen event and feel secure in your decision to move forward, celebrate with a delicious beef stir fry and cheers to new beginnings.



  • 8 oz lo mein noodles
  • 8 oz flank steak or another cut (see note), sliced 1/4″ thick against the grain
  • 1 tbsp soy sauce light
  • 1 tbsp cornstarch
  • 1 tbsp sesame oil
  • 1 tbsp garlic minced
  • 1 medium carrot cut into matchsticks
  • 3 cups broccoli florets
  • 1 tbsp sesame seeds optional garnish


  • 2 tbsp soy sauce
  • 2 tbsp hoisin sauce
  • 1/4 cup brown sugar
  • 1/2 tsp ground ginger
  • 1 tsp sesame oil


  1. Prepare the noodles according to the package directions (usually takes 2-4 mins to boil)
  2. Cut flank steak into thin strips.
  3. In a medium-sized bowl, mix 1 tbsp of cornstarch and 1 tbsp of soy sauce.
  4.  Add the beef strips to the mixture.
  5. Marinate for 5-10 minutes to tenderize the beef. You can skip this step if you are in a rush
  6. In a medium bowl, mix 2 tbsp soy sauce, hoisin sauce, sugar and ginger.
  7. Place a large skillet over medium-high heat.
  8. Add in sesame oil. When the oil is hot, add the beef strips and stir fry about 2 minutes until the beef is no longer pink.
  9. Add the minced garlic, sliced carrots and broccoli. Stir fry for about 5 minutes until vegetables are tender.
  10. Add Lo Mein to the beef/vegetable mixture.
  11. Toss together with the lo mein sauce and drizzle with the sesame oil.
  12. Enjoy!

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